The stronger your values, the more process-oriented it is.
Being effective and efficient at work, to build a business, to improve a craft, to exude honesty about artistic and personal expression, to exude humbleness in acts, to practice unconditional generosity, to maintain productivity in focus,
all these values require process.
A set values tied to acts requires you to continuously question and doubt yourself. Any habits that seems to threaten or shake your past identity(of what you used to believe is okay) is inherently shocking, even though it makes you a better person.
Strong values require you to shift your purpose, all because these things are more realistic, needed to be worked for and not wished for.
They demand every waking second, every single day of interaction to be true. Like tasks, simple things are like that, you won't have to think about it, you just do it.
Also, little things like making your bed before you leave for work or making decent omelette or acceptable Adobo builds character.
I suggest if you want to know someone, let them cook or clean for you upfront or simply work with them because results will show.
When you meet a friend, work with a colleague, do a side project, submit a craft, all of these require you to pull up strong values and put them into work, and when you do finish something important, it's immensely fulfilling.
Every day is new, so there's more and more opportunities that are naturally laid out, it's simply there, just feels so right.
The restaurant. Roma is seated alone at the booth. Lingk
is at the booth next to him. Roma is talking to him.
...all train compartments smell
vaguely of shit. It gets so you
don't mind it. That's the worst
thing that I can confess. You know
how long it took me to get there?
A long time. When you die you're
going to regret the things you
don't do. You think you're queer...?
I'm going to tell you something:
we're all queer. You think that
you're a thief? So what? You get
befuddled by a middle-class
morality...? Get shut of it. Shut
it out. You cheated on your
wife...? You did it, live with it.
You fuck little girls, so be it.
There's an absolute morality? May
be. And then what? If you think
there is, then be that thing. Bad
people go to hell? I don't think
so. If you think that, act that
way. A hell exists on earth? Yes.
I won't live in it. That's me.
You ever take a dump made you feel
you'd just slept for twelve hours...?
I don't know.
Or a piss...? A great meal fades
in reflection. Everything else
gains. You know why? 'Cause it's
only food. This shit we eat, it
keeps us going. But it's only food.
The great fucks that you may have
had. What do you remember about
What do I...?
I don't know. For me, I'm saying,
what is is, it's probably not the
orgasm. Some broads, forearms on
your neck, something her eyes did.
There was a sound she made...or,
me, lying, in the, I'll tell you:
me lying in bed; the next day she
brought me café au lait. She gives
me a cigarette, my balls feel like
concrete. Eh? What I'm saying,
what is our life?
It's looking forward or it's
looking back. And that's our life.
Where is the moment?
And what is it that we're afraid of?
Loss. What else?
The bank closes. We get sick, my
wife died on a plane, the stock
market collapsed...the house burnt
down...what of these happen...?
None on 'em. We worry anyway.
What does this mean? I'm not
secure. How can I be secure?
Through amassing wealth beyond all
measure? No. And what's beyond
all measure? That's a sickness.
That's a trap. There is no measure.
Only greed. How can we act?
The right way, we would say, to
deal with this: "There is a one-in-
a-million chance that so and so
will happen...Fuck it, it won't
happen to me..." No. We know
that's not the right way I think.
We say the correct way to deal with
this is "There is a one-in-so-and-
so chance this will happen...God
protect me. I am powerless, let it
not happen to me..." But no to that.
I say. There's something else.
What is it? "If it happens, AS IT
MAY for that is not within our
powers, I will deal with it, just
as I do today with what draws my
concern today." I say this is how
we must act. I do those things
which seem correct to me today. I
trust myself. And if security
concerns me, I do that which today
I think will make me secure. And
every day I do that, when that day
arrives that I need a reserve, [a]
odds are that I have it, and [b]
the true reserve that I have is the
strength that I have of acting each
day without fear.
According to the dictates of my
Stocks, bonds, objects of art, real
estate. Now: what are they?
An opportunity. To what? To make
money? Perhaps. To lose money?
Perhaps. To "indulge" and to
"learn" about ourselves? Perhaps.
So fucking what? What isn't?
They're an opportunity. That's all.
They're an event. A guy comes up
to you, you make a call, you send
in a brochure, it doesn't matter,
"There're these properties I'd like
for you to see." What does it mean?
What you want it to mean.
If that's what it signifies to you.
All it is is THINGS THAT HAPPEN TO
That's all it is. How are they
Some poor newly married guy gets
run down by a cab. Some busboy
wins the lottery.
All it is, it's a carnival. What's
special...what draws us?
We're all different.
We're not the same.
We are not the same.
It's been a long day.
What are you drinking?
Well, let's have a couple more. My
name is Richard Roma, what's yours?
Lingk. James Lingk.
James. I'm glad to meet you.
(they shake hands)
I'm glad to meet you, James.
I want to show you something.